“My job is unfulfilling”

Coaching Tips with Christina A. Arnold, MD 

Who can relate to the thought, “My job is unfulfilling”?

While this might feel true, how does this thought make you feel? For most, this thought leads to a feeling of disappointment, which drives the actions of negative self-talk, irritability, less effectiveness at work, and less presence at home. This thought is expensive, and it creates a life that feels unimportant.

Remember that life is 50-50. Half of life is amazing, and the other half is painful. You have a job in the pandemic (amazing!), and it is sometimes unfulfilling (painful). 

In these situations, you have three options: 1) change the thought, 2) change the job, or 3) keep the job, the thought, and the feeling of disappointment and unimportance. 

Equally true are these thoughts: “each slide is a patient, I have trained for years to read this slide, I am the only person on the clinical team who can provide a diagnosis.” Those thoughts could lead to a feeling of value and importance, driving actions of purpose and focus, and creating a life where you are important.

You don’t always have to change the thought. If you want to keep the thought that this job is unfulfilling, then consider finding a new job, negotiating in place, or bring meaning into your life in other ways (develop a hobby or a side business, negotiate to change your service structure or create a new teaching initiative).

It is not the job’s job to make us feel fulfilled (thank goodness). That’s our job. 

Be the Boss.

All thoughts are optional.

Pick the thoughts that serve you.

Christina A. Arnold, MD is a GI pathologist and professional career coach. Follow her podcast at https://yourpathinfocus.podbean.com/ and reach her at YourPathInFocus.com.